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by: nikki Hughes

Wed, 14 Oct 2009 02:26:15 +0000

weeeeellll……..I am a pansexual girl.in other words “gender blind”.
I love yaoi and I do not know what makes me like it.
and when I search for answers I never get them.
I like both of them because I think the power of love is great and if you love someone (regardless of gender) you should love them no matter what!
I hate people who like women because… well they’re women. god and when A boy discovers the girl they liked is a boy the go all like…you’re a boy?! eeww!
dammit if you liked her that means you like her no matter whet gender she/he has.
I don’t watch yuri but I’m not against it u.u
I’d also would like to see yaoi or yuri anime who has real troubles of homosexual couples who are afraid of “coming out of the closet” because people are soo mean! I mean…they love eachother why are you critizising them?….in my case I’d say: “you know what? I’m pansexual deal with it!” I coulden’t care less about their opinions. unfortunately some homosexuals aren’t like me and they do care about the opinions of other people.
I hate people who don’t understand homos.they make fun of them withought thinking about their feelings. ……Peaople are just soo mean to others it makes me want to cry for them T_T

by: Elslight

Mon, 20 Oct 2008 01:51:49 +0000

I must say that I have a preference for yaoi manga or Anime although I do not go towards the shows depicting real men. I find some of the story lines to be very creative and sometimes dramatic. I also admire the art rendered in the historical types. Being an (older married woman) without any type of marital problems. I do not tend to like porn, or depictions of “real” people. I don’t think that I watch yaoi specifically for any type of specific sexual fantasy. I must say I mostly enjoy something that I do not have or need to relate to reality. I find the Japanese manga and anime to be the most beautifully rendered. I think the yaoi written by women to be especially moving emotionally.

by: Lampos Maosc

Fri, 12 Sep 2008 13:17:43 +0000

I’ve just been letting everything wash over me these days, but shrug. I don’t care. Not much on my mind to speak of. I haven’t been up to much.

by: Lucas

Fri, 01 Aug 2008 06:42:52 +0000

The main difference between yaoi/yuri drawn by women and yuri drawn by men/ het is the people involved in it; yaoi tends to be a lot more tender and (comparatively) more story driven. Yes, its smut plain and simple, but its smut with atleast a bit of drive. Yuri drawn by men/het usually involves a few mangled sentences before people start having sex.

Also; the argument that it it takes out gender roles is complete crap; give me characters that arent just an uke and a seme, if they were interc hangeable and actually changed their rolls in bed it would add the the psychological realism and (hopefully) end the damn super uke syndrome that seems to have come from gravitation.

Another thing; please stop the doujinshi. All it does is hurt.

(sorry for the bad grammar, not proof reading and im writing this during some turds box stepping speach class)

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by: Finesse Page

Fri, 02 May 2008 00:34:50 +0000

[...] She couldn’t have said it better: ”I’ve recently discovered yaoi and consider it beautiful and breathless. I’ve wondered myself what, exactly, appeals to me about it, and have mostly failed to come up with the words. I think, perhaps, there is something about seeing a man so completely overcome that he responds directly to the person, regardless of anything (including gender!). So many men, at least in this culture, seem so very divorced from their emotions that it’s a delight to see (once again, for me) the sweep and power of male passion: I can imagine myself as one of the participants, the object of all that desire.“ So was the comment of 55 year-old widow on The Beat’s Article on “Yaoi and Boy’s Love” featured on Publisher’s Weekly. I couldn’t agree more. Nothing like the sweeping passion of a man to set all our female hearts aflutter. If men knew just how powerful their emotions are… if they knew… [...]

by: Mary-ro

Fri, 11 Apr 2008 20:16:44 +0000

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by: Jaime

Fri, 11 Jan 2008 14:24:32 +0000

the comment above is seriously stupid and in poor taste. “ehh??”

But to answer his question above a woman finding her husband in bed with another, it depends.
I would probably get mad that my husband kept his attraction to men a secret from me, but to make up for it, he should let me watch. It’s the least he can do.
If the other dude is really hot, he can move in and we can hopefully engage in threesomes. It would be so great to come home and see them going at it!

(of course, that is just my opinion. Some people don’t like sharing….but I don’t think I would have a problem sharing my man with another sexy man, as long as I was included somehow as well.)

And I think this goes for the majority of straight guys. They would be outright lying if they said they had something against having their girlfriend be with another woman, as long as they all had a threesome.
In the same way, I enjoy watching good looking males together, and if it happened in real life I would probably thank my lucky stars.

In conclusion, I think yaoi is awesome and I am so greatful it exsists.

by: KaNg

Thu, 06 Dec 2007 02:32:35 +0000

One thing i’d like to ask the girls that loves Yaoi, is that ??
How would they feel when at some night they go to the bedroom and sees their husband having sex with another man ??
they’d probably get hot and sit bakc and watch them ehh ??

i like yuri pretty much especialy the part where ya see the girls squeezes eath others’s tits and lift up to their short skirts exposing their tight thong’d! ass
but i don’t like it when they ingage in dildo sex. seriously i’d prefer a man humping the girl
as for Yaoi ?? i think its completely disgusting!! disturbing and since most girls complains whenever their man turn into queers why do they enjoy watching two men humping each other ?? its sick
and i pressume since some men in here loves Yaoi, they pretty much would love ingaging in some gay sex ehh ??
please i would like to get some replies

by: nico

Fri, 30 Nov 2007 17:02:49 +0000

Yaoi is over the age of 16, Shota is under 16 please get it right. thanks..good article by the way…

by: a wisper on the wind.

Thu, 28 Jun 2007 17:16:42 +0000

I see yaoi, in part, as a reaction to modern women’s revulsion to romance. Personily I love the idea of romance despite my distaste for it. A lot of straight romances that are available I find hard to swallow but because I find it easier to disconnect myself from it I feel I get into it more, and its often explicit nature just keeps my cynical side in check when the romance gets to heavy, if as nothing more than as a distraction.

Yaoi means so much to me it’s a romance I can handle, though not everyone I know would believe that.

by: Anonymous

Wed, 20 Jun 2007 16:18:12 +0000

i dont get it

by: Anonymous

Wed, 20 Jun 2007 16:18:02 +0000

i dont get it

by: Joolz

Mon, 18 Jun 2007 06:47:09 +0000

Nowadays a man and woman’s relationship to me seems predictable and boring. But two guys together just does something for me. It’s as simple as that. It’s hot and it entertains me and I love it. It’s almost like a drug because once I realize I liked it, I had to find more more more more!

And I love my boyfriend because he completely understands my love of all things slash. Before I was 18 and him being of age, he would buy me certain yaoi movies that I was just DYING to watch. My other friends thought yaoi was weird (even my best gay guy friend!), but my boyfriend just shrugged and said to each his own. Whatever got me going. It all just depends on what kind of person you are, I suppose.

Now if only everyone else could be that understanding and just get over the fact that two guys toghether is utterly appealing to some of us.

by: Breaking the ice

Fri, 08 Jun 2007 21:16:33 +0000

Ok, I don’t know what’s with the t-mobile and hair stuff. Back to Yaoi. Its not unreal as you kind ladys would believe. I’m a 17 year old male teen and I’m living a yaio dream with my*blush* mate. He and I are really close and both of us are really good artists. We draw and post alot of (you quessed it) yaio. Its not unreal and its not just for girls. thank you

by: christopher poole

Mon, 28 May 2007 16:09:07 +0000

it was so go,can we meat.

by: christopher poole

Mon, 28 May 2007 16:09:01 +0000

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by: christopher poole

Mon, 28 May 2007 16:08:53 +0000

it was so go,can we meat.

by: Enya

Thu, 10 May 2007 18:59:10 +0000

I love yaoi, so why do so many people judge it. Boys like seeing the yuri (lesbian) stuff and girls like yaoi. In many different yaoi mangas I have read, the stories have their own complicated situations. I sometimes dream of yaoi characters in different circumstances, but that’s for my own delight. Some girls think that boy on boy is the best thing, while guys think bout girl on girl is the best thing.

by: Sue

Sun, 06 May 2007 05:15:24 +0000

I’m 55, and the widow of a wonderful, 25-year, emotionally satisfying and complex relationship. I’ve recently discovered yaoi and consider it beautiful and breathless. I’ve wondered myself what, exactly, appeals to me about it, and have mostly failed to come up with the words. I think, perhaps, there is something about seeing a man so completely overcome that he responds directly to the person, regardless of anything (including gender!). So many men, at least in this culture, seem so very divorced from their emotions that it’s a delight to see (once again, for me) the sweep and power of male passion: I can imagine myself as one of the participants, the object of all that desire.

by: Jonka

Sat, 05 May 2007 18:24:30 +0000

I’m sure why I like Yaoi. But in most cases the storyline is really good. I always feel reminded of Romeo and Juliet. Two people loving each other, even though they are not supposed to. But stories that have this Romeo and Juliet theme with a girl and a boy are to me not realistic anymore. In these times girls can meet whatever boy they want. In contrast to that gay-love is still a taboo. So there are more obstacles for the characters. The development of the relationship is more complicated. Because of that Yaoi-stories are a lot more interesting to me than other stories.

by: MONIJESU

Tue, 24 Apr 2007 20:12:00 +0000

I THINK THE PICTURE IS CUTE

by: Drace

Sat, 21 Apr 2007 08:13:14 +0000

Personally, I like yaoi. Have since I found it. My theory is that if guys can see two girls in a show/book/whatever and say something about how hot they are and wouldn’t it be great if… why can’t a woman look at two guys in the same way and do the same. If two girls getting it on is ‘hot’ to a guy then what is so hard to beleive if its two guys and a one girl?

However not all yaoi is all about sex or even a mushy love thing. Some of the best yaoi can be found in a tension filled manga or anime/etc. that has two good looking guys who have a working or nonworking relationship where they hate each others guts. The actions and the tension provide the yaoi. Then there is a show like Gravitation where the yaoi is simply incorporated into a great show that could easily stand on its own without the yaoi.

In short, to me at least, yaoi is the spice to the mix. Afterall, eating plain potatoes is well….blah, put some butter on top and wahla! Life without yaoi is very bland. So many gender roles and so many walls and regulations. Screw the roles and regulations and let loose, tis much more fun. Besides, if you don’t like something, nobody is holding you in place to see/read/hear it is there?

by: Rayvn

Tue, 17 Apr 2007 05:29:58 +0000

I am a gay male myself with more female friends than I can count who adore Yaoi and everything about it. The one thing I’ve seen in common with them all is that women love to see two men going at it and delving into the depths of relationship and sex that they cannot, or some will not , attempt to reach in the real world. To my female friends at least, it appears that Yaoi is as hot as Yuri is to straight males.

Personally I like it not because of the sex but because of the levels of relationship that the characters develop in any really good Yaoi story. I just purchased a new Romance Manga called Menkui today that is a Yaoi story of sorts and in the first three chapters there is not a hint of sex but the relationship between the main characters is developed. I already cannot wait to get the next volume. I’m ranting now so I’ll stop, but my point is, simply put, Females find the attraction between two males as appealing as the attraction between two females is to straight males. at least from what I’ve seen.

by: Oukami

Fri, 13 Apr 2007 04:00:58 +0000

Those last three comments should be deleted. They have nothing to do with the topic. *sigh* Anyway, I disagree with the general definition of yaoi being “a way for young women and girls to explore sexuality without it being too intimately connected to them.” It can be for some, I’ll agree with that, but for older women like myself, yaoi/shounen-ai is about more than just the sex involved. While I love gay genres in general, I’m a realist who enjoys great storylines. I have read/seen yaoi series/movies that are terrible. “…even after a rape scene, the two men lie tenderly in each other’s arms and profess their love.” I don’t know what series she’s reading, but most yaoi series I have seen and/or read that involve rape usually do NOT end up all lovey-dovey. =/ Enzai is a perfect example. I really dislike that series. I do NOT like rape, incest, or pedophile situations of any kind… unless I have to squeeze past it to enjoy the storyline surrounding it.

As for what Jason Thompson said: there are a number of yaoi series in which real life situations surrounding gays are present and accounted for. Examples would be: Kizuna (my personal #1 fave yaoi series of all),Yellow, Fake, Kissing, Our Everlasting, Antique Bakery, A’A Prime, etc. There are others, but I don’t want to ramble on too much. ^^;

In conclusion (I apologize for this being so long), I’d like to point out that liking/loving yaoi all depends on who you are talking to. Everyone is different. I love involved story lines with realistic situations. Others just enjoy the sex. I have met a few who will love ANYTHING that involves yaoi (of which I find kinda disturbing). Basically, we all share one thing in common: we all think man/man situations are appealing. ^_^

by: crystal

Wed, 15 Nov 2006 18:24:27 +0000

the thing is that yaoi is fantasy. if you mix too much reality into your fantasy, well it becomes to real and a lot less fun.
of course i think everyone should be aware that in reality people can get hurt if they were to “come out of the closet” and that this is serious buisness for those who actually live their daily lives as homosexuals.
we read fantasy so we can get out of reality, that would be the purpose so it makes sense that we leave out the stupidity of society, if only for a half hour. we have to beleive that somewhere (real or not) their is going to be a happy ending…and maybe a nice steamy love scene just for kicks ^_^

by: Jason Thompson

Tue, 07 Nov 2006 07:10:39 +0000

I think I’m pretty yaoi-positive, but here’s one thing that’s always bothered me about it — why doesn’t more of it at least ATTEMPT to show some actual depiction of how actual gay people are treated in society? Maybe some people like to keep their pr0n completely separate from real-world issues, but I, personally, don’t.

Yes, I am male; yes, I do like lesbian sex fantasies; but I *ALSO* prefer them if they at least have some vague acknowledgment of social realism and homophobia and stuff like that. The only real counter-argument, for either yaoi or unrealistic lesbian sex, seems to be “Forget that boring stuff and SHOW ME THE PR0N!!!” which is an argument that I can’t really get behind.

by: somethingoranother

Mon, 06 Nov 2006 00:34:02 +0000

As an anthropologist I can’t help but wonder why people love BL (and a number of other things). I love BL and I’m not quite sure why. Although I find the explainations the article gave rather unsatisfactory, I do think it has to do with gender roles in some way. But there is never one universal reason people like something. There’s also plenty of personal reasons.

by: Jen

Sat, 04 Nov 2006 17:21:11 +0000

Ghost_of_Freud, I don’t think it’s fair to completely discount the less-intimidating explanation– it most certainly could be true for SOME people.

But of course it’s not the only explanation– there IS no one explanation. Yaoi appeals to different people for different reasons.

For example, there are many girls who say they like yaoi for the same reason many guys like lesbian porn– the idea that two is better than one. That’s not the case for me; for me the hotness has to do with the relationship, not necessarily the gender. But that doesn’t make it an invalid reason to like yaoi.